It’s been a few weeks since I’ve been able to post, life happens you know. This post takes a more serious note then the previous ones I’ve written. This is why it’s okay to say goodbye to things in your life that just don’t make sense anymore.
Sometimes we outgrow people, places, things. That’s why it’s okay to take a step back and say yeah this isn’t working for me anymore. It’s okay to let those things go. Leaving the instance of death/losing a loved one to one side, there have been three main instances of letting go in my life. So lets break it down.
Saying goodbye to love
Sometimes a relationship is just not meant to be. It’s a hard realisation to come to, believe me. You can spend years thinking you have found “the one” only to realise one day that they were but they’re not anymore. IT’S OKAY. People change, in my case it was University that made me realise I was too different a person now than I was when the relationship began and that it wasn’t healthy for me or my then boyfriend to keep clinging to our past selves. There was no dramatic reason to the breakup it just was. It needed to happen and it was honestly one of the best decisions I have ever made. I hated the idea of hurting him and I was terrified of being alone and I broke my own heart in the process, but I have never regretted my decision. After the breakup I learned so much about myself and gained so much self assurance. I grew up.
Saying goodbye to friends
Growing apart from friends can often feel like a breakup in itself, except it happens slowly then all at once. You wake up one day and realise you haven’t spoken to that person for a year and you wonder why. You can try to reconnect and for a lot of people that works. But, on the other hand if you meet up and can’t find your way back to the relationship you had before then it’s okay to leave it where you found it. Like I said before people grow, people change, people’s priorities are different. You will find yourself not losing any sleep over that lost friend. You didn’t fall out you just don’t know each other anymore. But look around and you’ll find you’re surrounded by people who love who you are right now and people that have always loved you. Trust.
Saying goodbye to school/work/uni
Finishing high school and starting University was hella scary. On the last day of sixth form I remember feeling so sad, things were never going to be the same ever again. All of these people were never going to be in the same place ever again. What if you lose friends you made here (see above)? What if you don’t make any new ones? I’m now approaching the end of my Undergraduate (incorporated Masters degree) and my looming Graduation is terrifying me! I have no idea where to go from here but I know I will be okay. I have no idea what I’m doing but I got this, I’m good. Saying goodbye to something you’ve been doing for as long as you can remember is terrifying, but chin up, everything will work itself out. Or so I keep telling myself.
I know I’ll experience so many more goodbyes in my life but I’ll look forward to them, they are a chance to grow and experience new things and find new people. When one door closes…